August 21, 2002
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I ran into a friend this morning and instead of asking how I was, he asked me what I had dreamed the night before. I said I did not recall anymore. Wonder now whether I had ever thought of the dream. Talk about dreams, remember all those big dreams we had when we were children? Perhaps we were going to grow up to be ballerinas, astronauts, or acresses. I actually believed I would emerge from puberty looking like a Barbie! Where did we go wrong?
Please, dont get me wrong, I´m not actually lamenting the fact that I don´t have a Barbie- doll figure, or grieving because I didnt end up in any studio in Hollywood or somewhere in Nasa
. My point is, now that we are adults, what happened to our capacity to dream big?
I used to think I could fly to the moon. Now I´m lucky if I can stay awake each evening long enough to watch Friends!
Sometimes we are so bogged down in daily living, we think we dont have energy to chase a dream. But dreams are motivations… I think that striving to make a dream come true often generates more energy than it takes.
Another reason one may not pursue big dreams is the one may be afraid of failure- God I wish I were not a virgo…
Of course, success is more fun, but a sound failure now and then wouls be beneficial for the lessons we need to learn to reach our goals.
What other reasons (in my case, excuse) do we have for not pursuing our dreams? HHmm… how about this one: Not enough time. I´ve used this excuse a lot, but the truth is, it doesnt hold water. My mom once told me it´s amazing what you can accomplish if you set aside 30 minutes a day to pursue a your goal. Thirty minutes a day! I spend more time than that reading junk mail and watching tv commercials. Her words inspired me greatly. If I invest 30 minutes of my day practicing the violin, jogging, or puttering my garden, what might I be able to accomplish?
Remember the film What About BOb? with Bill Murray? Bill´s character is a fan of a psychologist who wrote a book encouraging “baby-steps” towards mental health. The idea of the film is purely to make people laugh, but it has made me think as well. Dividing a big dream into baby steps can put something that seems unattainable within reach. Writting a 200-page book, for instance, seems wonderful. Writing a single page isnt. Repeat the same step five days a week for one year, and the book is done.
Sometimes we do fail. And seeing a dream not coming true can be as hard to bear as seeing a beloved one die. Yet, we always find strengh to fight for another. That´s the beauty of the human spirit. I read somewhere that a dream is little more than a passionate hope, and without hope we die. As I almost did some time back. HHmm….
Nurture your dreams, and they´ll nurture you in return.
Comments (14)
Shy, that’s beautiful.. what you wrote.. i wish i could write like that…
Celeste
dreams can come true. Just make sure they are the ones you really want to come true….
*pitter* *patter* *pitter* *patter* *pitter* *patter* …this is a refreshing outlook!
good point! i think we tend to forget out dreaming when we grow up, because we lose our innocence….we realize that failure always lurks around the corner….and we’ve had our dreams squashed by the bigger people…..just like most childhood things…the adults make us feel they can’t be accomplished…they aren’t worth having…they’re not practical, etc….
but dreaming is important…if we didn’t have hopes and dreams, we wouldn’t have anything at all!!!!
thanks for reminding me to dream!
Thank you for this wonderfully inspiring blog!
I love the new banner, by the way!
Great blog Shy .
Indeed , hope and tenacity are necessary to make a dream becomes a reality .
any people say : ” When we will really , we can . “
Amitié à toi
Michel
Soma other also say: “Where there is a will there is a way”. We dont pay much atterntion to these sayings, but they are so very true…
smash-hit blog again! really….ur writing is wonderful. i wish i cud write like that. this is a truly inspiring blog. i can almost feel the energy to try to achieve my dreams while i was reading this.
thanks. take care…..
n keep them coming.
and how do we overcome the thoughts that the dream is to far. that we are too old to go after them now. Its to late.?
Amazing… I always wanted to write a blog on Dreaming… B’cos that’s one good thing (probably the only one) I find about myself … dreaming Big … Some of my friends & close ones at times ridicule me when I ask them to Dream King Size but my standard reply is … When ur dreaming why not dream big .. after alll you are not paying any entertainment tax ..& u end up feelin’ good at the end of it!!
On that “where there’s a will ….. well I’d like to be in it”"
You are really one of the most wonderful, inspiring & sensitive person I have known … I hope & wish that this association stays forever!!!
I guess when we “grow up” we have so many worries to take care that we don’t have any time left for “dreaming”.
But with a little bit of time management everything is possible… all we need is to remember how to dream
Our mutual friend is having nightmares. Poor bebe, I think he needs to drink warm milk before bed.
Sometimes I succeed making my own dreams;you could try to choose the dreams ; like going to a film.
You need a lot oftraining,but it works…..not always thought
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