June 17, 2003
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It occurred to me to that even the unattractive fellows may be out of an average gal’s range. Why? Because I’m thinking they want to compensate for their superficial lacks. I used to think that the incapicitating sensations one gets from seeing a more than attractive person was legit. I don’t think that’s right anymore. I’ll admit that there have been many times where I’ve felt that way about someone of the opposite sex. But I’ve also come to realize that when the attractive person becomes an intimidating god like object of desire, that doesn’t sound like the right path to a healthy relationship. Most girls say they don’t care about appearance but personality is far more important. I didn’t really understand this until became a Protestant and that’s actually only recently. I came to see that the love that we are to have for our other is not quick, erratic, emotional and lusty but slow, patient, persevering, controlled, and what’s more, eternal. True love has no expiration date whereas what I’ve believed that love and desire were the same and that the inherent nature came in the form of continual short waves.
Comments (5)
You make very nice observations on issues such as love: very mature and thoughtful.
Nevertheless, as I think you will notice, most people are more interested in love as a medium for avoiding loneliness or as a way of improving their self esteem than as a step in the path towards a different kind of love: the love which evolves from the passion, from the stage of the “trembling flesh”(as Almodovar, would pointo out), towards the universal love which would encompass every living being, or, if you prefer, the whole planet.
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Ciao,
Ivan Pedro
I think you are right about love. There are also things like accidents, diseases and age (and gravity, LOL!) that change the physical appearance. Song of Solomon admonishes a man to ‘remember the wife of his youth.” I think it’s because she won’t always look like that!If this is all a relationship is based on, it will not weather the storms. Been there, done that! Real love is a choice–more about what others need than yourself. Meditating on 1 Corinthians 13 is eye-opening.
*claps* VERY well said.
Amour
Hollie xoxo
Hmm… I still need to see this film, I’m told I’ll be dissapointed if I go expecting much, so I’ll go expecting it to be rubbish so I’ll enjoy it (err… probably)
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