March 17, 2002
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“Any fool can risk his life; it takes a hero to risk his heart.”~Xena, warrior princess
Deep down everyone wants to be a hero. This thought comes from a quote posted by vineet and remembered by Azbrit. This blog came to mind as I read Sada. She mentioned friendship. Xanga has been really inspiring lately, I guess…
I´m not the right person to discuss that, since I have started thinking about friendship just some time ago. Before that, I just felt it.
That is indeed a very complex thing. As I believe people´s character is sharpened by cultural points and even time, it is difficult to say anyone is able to find real friends. I start asking that to myself. I wonder what kind of friend I am to the ones around me. And I also wonder what a true friend would be like. The one who´s always there when you need? Then, what kind of friend would you be? The one who just look for help?
I´m surrounded by people. And people who like my work, people who dont, people who I usually hang out with, phone to, etc… I´m not sure I can consider them friends, but they are part of an exciting part of my life: my daily life. I run the serious risk of being hurt by any of them, but I still think of the stuff i will have learned by then. Seriously, one should not meet anyone and expect the day one will be betrayed. Also, one should not put one´s happiness in the other´s hands. I have done this before. It was like giving up my own freedom.
Sometimes I feel lonely. I look around, see those I like taking care of themselves. Dating, having fun, having children (God, I´m getting old…
) and this sense of loneliness almost slices my heart. But then, I come to the conclusion that sometimes i don´t add myself as a friend. Then how can I demand that from anyone else? Then, the feeling of loneliness gives place to self respect. Therefore… I feel able to look for the friend I want in other´s.
Sada has also made me remember another point. The only thing I´m really afraid in life. I fear reget. I dont want to see myself in an advanced age, thinking about the time I lost protecting myself from people. About the times I didnt give myself the chance to be happy because of fear. I want to look at my bruisers and know I have had some learning from that too. And yes, I do want to have friends around.
Even if it is just for us to fool young people and their fear of living.
Have a nice week!
ps. Dauro will be a father!!
Comments (6)
Relationships are so complex. I continue to be amazed at how many people do not think much of them other than that they happen. It takes a LOT of time and effort to really know people and is a worthwhile investment–especially for people who are married OR alive! I believe risk (not in a foolish sense) is better than regret!
Dating, having fun, having children… can they alleviate loneliness?
I think loneliness is a personal trait. One can be lonely amongst a crowd. And be gregraious in one’s company.
As for hurt and betrayal, i feel they are the other sides of the coins of love and trust. People’s attitude to them may differ. As a famous hindi song goes: “the final result of every meeting is parting. this thought tortures me all day long.” Some people take it in their stride. Some take a lifetime to recover. Some don’t want to recover…
Deep down everyone wants to be a hero? Maybe it’s for people who are scared of being lonely.
Guess, we trivalise these topics when we generalise them. It’s all in our individual minds.
Friendship online is real for me . Why ? I don’ t know truly . You know only those people by the way of their writings and other productions that they want deliver. You fell that you loved someone when this one stops his site . What an emptyness !
Amitié Michel
Good point lotus…. Part of me wants to be as you say and part of me fights it. I don’t know why.
First off, I love Xena! So I like that you had a cool quote from her.
Second, I think we all get that feeling of loneliness…no matter how many people are around. I know I do.
I guess, we are all meant to be lonely in a way… no matter how hard we try to merge ourselves in societies and communities there is somwthing unique about each and one of us… and that will make us different and segregated from the rest… but then there are always things that do unite us… so it works both ways… we are a group of loners? Something of the sort