July 5, 2003
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a girl like me
When people ask what “a girl like me” is doing without a boyfriend, I never know quite what to say. It’s really irritating. First of all, what is a girl like me? But let’s not even get into that. What is wrong with me being on my own?
I do want someone to cuddle with. Of course I like being told pretty things. I melt for a good kiss. A long late at night phone conversation with an intelligent, funny guy would make me believe in love again. Especially if he can come over after we hang up the phone. But, is a girl like me not as good as she could be if she doesn’t have any of that?
Excuse me but I’m not half a person. What you are looking at is a whole person. I have a complete heart pumping life into everything I do. Passion is part of who I am and not just what’s produced when my body is caressed. When a guy walks into my life, he doesn’t have to complete me. I’d love it if he challenged, inspired and motivated me, but he doesn’t have to worry about half oranges. What is that?
I want to give myself as a complete person to another whole person. Yes, I want to hopefully one day find someone who can handle all that I am. But for now, please, I beg of you, stop asking me what I’m doing without a steady boyfriend. The answer is this: I’m living.
Perhaps your idea of a girl like me isn’t me at all.
*ps: Entry inspired on conversation with some new friends… damn it sucked
Comments (9)
I’m fairly sure that they meant to be complimenting you on your beauty, intelligence, desirability–but it is just so misguided, that assumption in our culture that we all need to be paired up. Your response, that you are living, is a very good one, and the life you’re living is probably all that much better because you’re not grabbing the first available guy just to get paired off. You’re right about being a whole person, and y’know what? Whole people make the best partners, too, less likely to make dysfunctional relationships.
I second that.
~ smiles ~ last I heard, Brazil has something like 9 woman to each man… so… next time someone asks you, just say you’re waiting for the ratio to improve a little
AMEN!!! I’m with you on this!! Why do people believe that a girl isn’t strong enough to make it thru this life and world with out her knight in shining armor??
Peace and Love
I definitely agree…some people’s thoughts are so…I don’t know the word for it…but I feel the same way.
Take care
Live long 
Hugs
I’ve sometimes wondered what I’ve done to deserve a person like hubby by my side. I don’t consider myself to be anything too special, desirable and all that. I’m probably the one guys wouldn’t take another look at in a bar…
I miss being single at times. I miss the freedom of pleasing your own desires without having to answer to anyone else of it.
In general, I’m with SuSu on this…
Ahmmmmmm hon, they meant that you’re too cute of a girl and there wouldn’t be any boy in their right mind that wouldn’t wanna be with you. – I guess that’s what they usually mean.
But you’re totally right, one does not need a bf or gf to be a full person. Mind me when i say full… i believe we’re full but not complete. And that’s not to say that we “need” another person to be complete. Just that life just “fits” when ppl get together.
I’m still guessing here though…
I do believe in independence and being able to follow your own dreams without having to sacrifice your life for the one you love, just that, now i’ve become a little more calm in my approach eheheh
Take care hon