April 5, 2004
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Love is a decision, not a feeling
It is true. I have been thinking about it and recently stumbled upon a discussion online
among believers that love really is a decision, not a feeling. I truthfully can’t deny the fact
that feeling is present, but it is very dangerous to just associate “love” with feelings alone.
In addition, 1 Corinthians 13 – the famous bible passage about love, does not associate
love with state of feelings at all. But it’s a decision, it’s an action. That is what I have recently chosen. To love and be loved.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not
delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes,
always perseveres.
Love is definitely a choice and a decision that you have to make. Love can’t be based on
feelings cause feelings come and go and feelings fade. At the end of the day, you have to
CHOOSE to love that person. Love is a sacrifice in all ways and it will take ALL of you to carry
out that sacrifice to make it a commitment.
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Comments (8)
intereshting perspective
i totally agree with that.
sometime that happens to me too .. but both sleep and dreams are so very important !!! where would we be if any one of them were missing ….!
I totally agree – I remember writing about it once to someone and I thought I had a winning argument about why we should be together … that didnt work out but I still believe in asking the – why will this work before making any huge commitments!
BonVoyage!
i have to meditate on this………
i dunno.. i wundnt agree wid u on this one… i beleive that love is the strongest feeling humans can feel… its strenght cannot b described in words…. people do all sorts of thngs for love… And love deosnt fade… so the feeling doesnt fade either… but what u put forward was an intresting perspective…
I agree with Lotus – love is a powerful feeling, the most powerful that we humans have; however, one has the ability to allow those feelings to be exposed or keep them subdued. In other words, we are able to keep those feelings limited by making a decision to do so, or we can follow blindly behind them and let those feelings direct us (much like teenagers do). But, as you get older and experience the pain associated with letting your emotions get the best of you – maybe by getting hurt because you allowed yourself to love to hard – then eventually you learn how to limit those feelings or emotoins. This is a choice.
If we have control of our emotions, even that of love, then we at some point make the decision to love a person and how much we are going to love them.
Nice
Absolutely it is both things…we do feel it, but we choose to continue to feel it, or not to, every single day. The same goes for other emotions…and most things we do. It is all about choices…